I will state right off the bat that I have just one person in my life with experience turning skins from wildlife remains into leather and raw hide, and that for various reasons relating to our use of language and our differences in the way that each of us learns and teaches, that I was … Continue reading
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Sexual Abuse Leads To Sexual Dysfunction (Perspective On Consent): Rape Culture 305
Warning: This posts contains writing that may be particularly triggering for survivors of sexual abuse, especially for those whose traumas occurred during late childhood and/or as young adults. If you are having a bad day already, this might not be the best piece of writing for you to engage with. — I was by incest … Continue reading
poor persecuted pervert?
Originally posted on Sex Geek:
There’s a scandal breaking in Canada. It’s about BDSM. Or is it? I’m not so sure. Short version: Jian Ghomeshi is a wicked popular CBC host, and the CBC just fired him without disclosing why. He’s retaliating with a $50 million lawsuit (unheard of in non-litigious Canada) and a demand…
For The 2-Year-Old Girl I Once Was
When I was a little girl, I was hopelessly trapped in a state of complete dependence upon two often violently abusive, egocentric adults. I also had two sisters, both of whom lived with us, who were equally as trapped. I made my first attempt at permanent escape 12 years ago, and was repeatedly drawn back … Continue reading
Because I Am White: An Incomplete List Of Privileges
Because I am white, I am more likely to have a gun put in my hands than to have one pulled on me. In fact, this has even already happened to me (I wasn’t yet finished high school when my father brought home a gun from his workplace and put it in my mother’s hands … Continue reading
Remembering Otto
I didn’t know Otto well when he committed suicide, over ten years ago now, while I was living with him. In fact, it quickly became apparent to me that no one knew him well. The day that he took his own life just outside the city limits, he cried into the phone with an immediate … Continue reading
How White People Can Begin To Comprehend Cultural Appropriation Without Stepping Knee-Deep In Racism
Pharrell Williams is wearing a cheaply made feather headdress on the cover of Elle magazine this month. The headdress is constructed from what appears to be dyed turkey feathers, giving the appearance to the untrained eye of eagle feathers, and a lot of people are upset. As they damn well should be. I don’t know … Continue reading
Reconciliations
Many times in my life, I have been pushed to the brink, and found a way to reconcile within myself somewhere along those margins. Take for example, the choice to reconcile my intellect with my emotions, in relation to my gender. The dysphoria is involuntary. It has been maddening at times. I have actually wanted … Continue reading
“New World” Settler Colonialism: “Killing Indians, Making Niggers”
Originally posted on Decolonization:
“New World” settler colonialism can be described as a process of “killing Indians, making niggers.” By this I mean that, within the visionary project of building and maintaining a settler state, there are the immediate projects of clearing “virgin” land for industry and settlement (“killing Indians”), as well as constructing a…
Solidarity Is For Seronegative Sex-Positive White Feminists
The other day, I came across this article through a contact on my Facebook. For an otherwise somewhat productive article about rape culture and sexual assault, the male author writing to a male audience makes two particularly alarming, counter-productive claims. First, the author claims that someone who, against their own ethics, unknowingly engages in a … Continue reading
